What if I get the answering machine and make a blithering idiot of myself on tape? This is the reason I don't call people I know have answering machines. Ry has an answering machine, but I know if he doesn't pick up by time it clicks on, he's not home. I never leave a message on anyone's answering machine, and people get mad at me for it. Rather, there is only one person I call unless I *need* to call them, and that's Ry, because he's the only one that knows:
no one’s expecting you to interpret all the minute differences between “I’m fine (ask me askmeaskme)” and “I’m really, actually fine”.
He DOES. And of course, on the net, no one expects you to do so. They have to explain it. And I'm much less inclined to go "I'm fine" when I'm iming someone like you or Alde, then the AUTOMATIC REACTION you have when someone asks "How are you?" They expect to hear "I'm fine, how are you?" not, "I feel like [insert negatively connotative word here]. I really want to ignore you, but I'm not going to because that wouldn't be polite. Can you please just go away?"
Back to the Ry part though. He knows my quirks. He knows the difference between Hello. and Hiya! or I'm okay, how was work? and Awe I missed you, I hope work went okay today! How are you? How's your grandma? Did you see your mom today? Or even in person. I'm fine. *looks at shoes, ruffles through purse, twirls a curl around a finger* and Eh, I'm okay. I actually ate this morning! Ew look at your hair! Here, where's my comb, lemme fix that for you.
But anyway. You shouldn't have to worry about that. Especially the feling selfish part. Because really, if those people weren't selfish themselves, they wouldn't make such a fuss about you not calling. In fact, they would CALL YOU FIRST because they have taken an interest in you and they *know* that you're not the person who calls first.
*laughlaugh* I think I'm used to if cause dah bf was an introvert. the mother is an introvert. and every friend I've ever been *good* friends with have been intoverts. me on the other had, is the complete opposite. I have a connection with those kind of people that other people can't understand. *shrugs*
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This is the reason I don't call people I know have answering machines. Ry has an answering machine, but I know if he doesn't pick up by time it clicks on, he's not home. I never leave a message on anyone's answering machine, and people get mad at me for it. Rather, there is only one person I call unless I *need* to call them, and that's Ry, because he's the only one that knows:
no one’s expecting you to interpret all the minute differences between “I’m fine (ask me askmeaskme)” and “I’m really, actually fine”.
He DOES. And of course, on the net, no one expects you to do so. They have to explain it. And I'm much less inclined to go "I'm fine" when I'm iming someone like you or Alde, then the AUTOMATIC REACTION you have when someone asks "How are you?" They expect to hear "I'm fine, how are you?" not, "I feel like [insert negatively connotative word here]. I really want to ignore you, but I'm not going to because that wouldn't be polite. Can you please just go away?"
Back to the Ry part though. He knows my quirks. He knows the difference between Hello. and Hiya! or I'm okay, how was work? and Awe I missed you, I hope work went okay today! How are you? How's your grandma? Did you see your mom today? Or even in person. I'm fine. *looks at shoes, ruffles through purse, twirls a curl around a finger* and Eh, I'm okay. I actually ate this morning! Ew look at your hair! Here, where's my comb, lemme fix that for you.
But anyway. You shouldn't have to worry about that. Especially the feling selfish part. Because really, if those people weren't selfish themselves, they wouldn't make such a fuss about you not calling. In fact, they would CALL YOU FIRST because they have taken an interest in you and they *know* that you're not the person who calls first.
*laughlaugh* I think I'm used to if cause dah bf was an introvert. the mother is an introvert. and every friend I've ever been *good* friends with have been intoverts. me on the other had, is the complete opposite. I have a connection with those kind of people that other people can't understand. *shrugs*