Agh, sorry about your mother! I'm surprised at the delay in surgery -- IME with old parents and in-laws, as well as being married to an MD, old people in general are urged to get out of hospital as soon as possible, because the inactivity is really bad for them.

I am speechless with admiration for how organized your household is! I can't come close, and that's with only myself to manage -- Spouse, of course, being an adult responsible for managing herself.